Peer Pressure..Yes! Even At Our Age!

I recently sat in a conference with about a hundred other very health conscious professionals. For three days I soaked in the “why” of protein, carbs, fat, cells, glycogen, heart disease, diabetis…the science of weight maintenance. To say it was interesting to me would be an say I understood it all would be a lie (:0) …to say it opened my eyes to a world of reason would be spot on. I could write volumes about what I did learn and how it will help you in your daily health management. Over the course of time I will share that with you. But this morning I want to talk about people, their habits and the way they try to work through peer pressure.

The average age in that room for three days was probably 40. These were not teenagers, they were mature adults and many of them held a PHD in a medical field. And we were all there to learn about a weight loss product (Ideal Protein). So, of course, we were all very conscious of what we were eating and drinking the whole three days. The usual table of morning sweets…donuts, muffins, sweet rolls, croissants, jams/jellies, butter…were not present. There was no table of soft drinks, sweet fruit juice or sports drinks. At noon we did not have a buffet of fried chicken, mashed potatoes/gravy, chocolate cake and cherry cobbler. (By now you are probably thinking you are glad you weren’t there..HA!) No, we had choices of good health management.

What I found myself wondering was how many of these people would stop at Dairy Queen on their way home and have an Oreo Blizzard? We were all in a setting of “good choices”. The peer pressure was to make the ‘good choice’. And the opportunities for those choices were given to us. The only temptation was the bread at the end of the lunch buffet and a gravy they served with the brisket. And I saw very few take those options.

We were in a large hotel in Dallas, TX. One morning I walked out during a break to the Starbucks in the lobby to buy an ice tea. While standing there a beautiful lady came up and ordered a coffee. Placed with prominence on the counter was a glass domed cake server..all polished to a sparkle so you could see the hunks of chocolate swirled cream cake, oversized carrot muffins with pecans of course and jumbo chocolate chip cookies placed inside. I watched the lady (who was a part of the same conference I was) as she noticed the glass covered treats. She ordered her coffee, removed her money from her wallet and as the clerk handed her the coffee she slowly reached across the counter with a few dollars in hand only to slowly pull it back. I could see her hesitate, take a short breath, then say “I’ll have that piece of creme cake too. Please put it in a bag, I’ll put it in my purse.” She dropped her head as she said it, almost like a child getting caught with cookies stolen from the cookie jar. I tried so hard to look straight ahead, still waiting for my ice tea. With great shame the lady looked over at me and in a soft ‘please forgive me’ voice said, “I’m not on the diet. I just work for one of the clinics”.

Never one glance had come from me to her..not one word of ‘shame on you’..nothing to discourage or make her think I disapproved. But my very presence at the counter created a ‘peer pressure’ to not even look at the sweet treats! Peer pressure is POWERFUL! At any age! It can steer you to make healthy choices or choices that will affect your health in a negative way. In that room for three days I had strong peer pressure to make excellent choices. No one was tempting me with foods I knew would be a wrong choice for me. I LOVED it!! What a wonderful world it would be if we all were there for each other in a positive way every day!

Sadly though it is usually the opposite. We are surrounded by people every single day that WANT us to make bad health choices. They don’t do it intentionally. It is a part of the American some it is showing IS what we do. So how do YOU resist the peer pressure and make choices that will create weight management success for you? IT COMES FROM WITHIN YOURSELF! Inside has to be stronger than what is going on around you. You surround yourself with the Positive Peer Pressure! People that want your success too. You surround yourself with foods and an environment that are conducive to good choices. You PLAN AHEAD!

Social settings, eating out with friends, business banquets, cooking for your family…on and on I could go. They can all be the “Peer Pressure” in your life. Create for yourself a positive environment. Plan what you will eat, plan who you will sit by and have conversation with, plan..plan..plan! I can’t say it enough. Negative Peer Pressure will only work if you let it! And the easiest way to “let” it is to NOT PLAN!

What happened with the lady at the Starbucks counter? I assured her I was not there to judge. She paid for her coffee and cake, slipped the cake into her purse and went on her way. Later that afternoon I saw her in the hallway outside our conference room. As she walked by me she ducked her head. I”m not happy she felt like she had to do that but it does prove how powerful Peer Pressure is. Create positive Peer groups for yourself…Walk with your head held high!

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Maya Angelou


Ideal Protein..Excellence

The summer between my Freshman and Sophomore year in high school I started putting on extra pounds. From that time on (which was about 40 years ago) I was on a roller coaster ride. The “popular” diet in High School guessed it..starve! So I would not eat, go days and then feel horrible and then eat and then starve and then..well you get the picture. Of course no results of any kind. I might lose three or four pounds but then gain four or five. And this continued until the fall of 2010.

In the summer of 2010 I was feeling horrible…physically and mentally. My weight had soared to over 200 pounds. My body ached, I popped three BP pills a day, my skin was pasty, dry and old, and there were many other issues I really don’t think you want to hear about. Mentally I had lost my self esteem and most of all I had lost the self confidence I had always taken pride in.  I knew I NEEDED to lose weight. But that was the same old dilema..those words of “have to” “should” “needed to” ! They weren’t the words that were going to take me to a healthy end. They are forceful words..words a teacher or mother might use when you would do it “just because I said so”. Never really produced results of excellence with me or anyone else.  But I am a Coach…I knew I would need the “WANT TO”. My own inner desire of ‘wanting’ to succeed.  Also I had never succeeded at keeping the weight off. My track record was perfect-perfectly failing (sorry, I know that is bad grammar).

So, instead of rushing into a new fad diet to try and lose something fast and easy, I spent a couple of months exploring HOW I would keep weight off IF I chose to lose it. This is major my friends! The part about “If I chose to”. I knew my reasons for losing had to be from my heart and not just the mirror.  Where do you begin the ‘how’? By asking questions. I noticed people around me that had lost weight and were losing weight. I started asking them what program they were on and what was the MAINTENANCE program for them. Honestly, most people never get to maintenance so they have no clue. But those that did and knew I asked a million questions.

I began noticing a  friend of mine at church, Jason O’Neal. (This picture is of Jason, his wife Heather and their daughter Harley) As long as I had known him he had been a “large” man (sorry Jason, don’t know exactly how to say that). But he was shrinking! And fast! So I stopped him one Sunday morning and asked him how he was losing. His answer (which turned out to be my new best friend) “Ideal Protein”. He explained just a little about the program. As soon as he said “I buy their  product and have three times a day” I turned him off. I had NEVER wanted to do what I considered a restricted program. I wanted freedom..freedom to make my own choices about what went into my mouth. Freedom to stay fat if I wanted without anyone telling me there was a better way. Really, that is what it turned out to be. So I walked away thinking that was not for me.

But weeks passed and he kept losing! So, again, I asked questions. But this time I asked his wife Heather (always ask the  wife..Ha!) She gave me a very lengthy explanation of what Ideal Protein (IP) was about. NOT what he ate! Who Ideal Protein was and how they had laid out Jason’s success from the beginning..including a Maintenance plan! Now THAT got my attention. I had seen other friends around my hometown losing and knew others were following the IP protocol. I went to them and asked questions. I finally made the call one day to the IP clinic and talked to Marcy Davis, IP Coach. I’m telling you bells went off…LOUD bells. I KNEW I had found the program for me. Why? Because they would talk maintenance with me.

On September 1, 2010 I began my journey of excellence with  Ideal Protein! I sit here on April 19, 2012 ninety pounds lighter. Even though that is amazing in itself that I would lose 90 pounds the truly amazing part is I have had it off for a YEAR! It took me seven months to lose eighty of those pounds and then while proceeding through the different phases of maintenance I lost ten more.

So can I say I finally found the “SECRET” to weight loss and maintenance (didn’t take too long..only 40 years)? I can and will!! The great part…IT’S NO SECRET!! Ideal Protein is the most effective natural weight loss product on the market today. It IS the product that produced the weight loss and body size/shape I have never in my life had. And it is the program which, among hundreds I know about, has shown me the “HOW” of keeping my weight under my own management!

I love IP so much I have become a Regional Development Consultant for the company. My passion is to create excellence in life for others! And Ideal Protein produces excellence of an all-encompassing proportion.

A Year Of Looking Back and Learning

A year ago I started on a journey of success. I had spent seven months losing almost 80 pounds. The “losing” trip was difficult but I knew the “keeping it off” trip would even be harder. Yesterday at an Easter gathering a dear friend asked me how long I had kept my weight off, “364 Days longer than I normally do” was my response. Every single diet I have ever done..EVERY SINGLE ONE.. I started gaining the weight back the day after I quit the diet. Whether I had been on it one week and lost three pounds or seven months and lost seventy (which BTW I have done before).

But this time I did something different, something I had never done before..when I began the losing part … I started planning for the “keeping it off” from the beginning. For once I thought through what I was going to do. I found a diet plan I could stay that made sense to me. (IDEAL PROTEIN became my new love!) I found people that had succeeded to talk to and others who genuinely cared about me succeeding. Then I did a magical step (not really but for some reason it had never crossed my mind before)…I asked the “how” question first. “HOW” was I going to keep it off?? What did this program offer me in the way of Maintenance. And I wasn’t going to wait for the answer .. I wanted to know upfront what would make it work.

For me Ideal Protein was the answer, for you it may be something else. But what I’m so excited to share is that over the last year I have been questioning every day!  ” What did I do today that made me succeed in keeping the 90 pounds (that is where I ended up) off?”  I have come up with several “realities” of maintaining good health that I want to share with you over the next few weeks and months. My hope is that it will help you too. If you are on a weight loss journey being able to keep off every single pound you lose would be a success story. Whether it is one pound or one hundred. Small wins add up to big wins. You need to live and breathe success in your health journey in order to know the ‘how’.

The picture today is one of my favorite of me and my sweet niece Kim.  This was taken at the beach the July before I started my diet on September 1, 2010. I can remember thinking I didn’t look ‘too bad’. But also remembering the horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach that said I was fooling only myself. It was about this time that I started considering what I could do to finally make this work.

Would you also share with us here on my blog? Tell us what you have done, how your diet program, exercise regimen, those that support you, books..whatever has helped you—-share with us.Together we are better.