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The “Game Changer”

Have you ever had an event in your life that was truly a “game changer“? Something that, maybe not at the time but later down the road, proved to forever alter everything you have done and will do? I have had several..the night in a small pop-up camper on Lake Murray that I took a deep breath and finally said yes (almost exactly 37 years ago)..the cold snow flurry day I stood in the back doorway of an attorney’s office and watched my new son enter the room in the arms of a stranger (he’s adopted)..entering a darkened hallway of my dear friend’s home and seeing a car seat sitting in the floor with the sweetest face sleeping (he’s adopted too).  Those were life defining moments for me. Moments that changed me forever!

Twenty years had passed since I sat down on the floor beside that car seat, tears of joy slowly falling, knowing this precious child had been given to me by my God. And twenty years since I can say any event has been a ‘changer’. Few events have a profound impact on you and they are divided by a million moments of ordinary. But a million moments have passed..an event has taken place..one that has and will change me forever.

The summer of 2010 I began to realize I could no longer stay the way I was. My health was deteriorating, my enthusiasm for ‘doing’ was done…I had been altered by years of weight gain. Stripped of ‘caring’ by habits that eat up who we are. I began to think about how I was going to lose this weight and most of all “How was I ever going to keep it off?” Losing had never been the real issue..I had done that many times (really hundreds). But not one time—NOT ONE— had I kept it off. And those of you who have had the same experience know I would usually gain more back than I lost. My routine of starting a diet on Monday caused me to binge on the Friday, Saturday and Sunday before (preparing of course for the “change” that was coming). Then by Wednesday I had blown the diet only to begin again on Friday with the cycle of starting on Monday. So my ‘diet’ was a routine weight gaining regimen that I had down pat!

This time I thought about the “after” first. Never had I contemplated the ‘keeping it off’. The little bit of thinking time I spent was on which one of the latest fads would I try this time. These hours I spent on planning a successful end have proven to be the “life changer” for me! It doesn’t compare to the moment I fell head over heals in love with my son Joshua as I looked at his beautiful face for the first time.  But these moments and what followed have created a healthy “I CARE” Theresa…and that will change your life!

“Weight loss is all in your Heart”  Dr. Tran Tien Chanh

 

 

What would you …

What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you? We spend a tremendous amount of precious time wondering what others think about what we are doing, or not doing. Don’t get me wrong, I believe we should be stewards of our life, care what is happening and not live selfishly. But being in the “Not Push Forward Into What I Want To Do With My Life” mode just because others will think it is  stupid or crazy or it doesn’t fit into what THEY would do is one of the most stifling activities we can partake in.

So doesn’t it make sense to surround yourself with people that believe in you? Those that will hear your dreams,visions and ambitions then encourage and support you? Move the “nay sayers” to the back of the line.

When I was very in elementary school I had a Principle, Mr. Wallace, that was one of those people. Yes, I was a child, but his attitude and encouragement has stayed with me all these years. One particular time I was the ‘star’ in the school play..”Sadie Shaw From Arkansas”. The reason, I’m sure, that I had the lead was because I wasnt afraid to sing in front of anyone. But nerves kind of overtook me and I didn’t always perform the way everyone wanted me to. The more times we did the play the less I felt I could do it. On the “big” day of the play, the day we performed for the parents,  Mr. Wallace came by my room and asked me to step into the hall with him. He proceeded to give me a pep talk. I will never forget what he said to me, “Theresa, go out there and give it all you have! Make them laugh the way you do me. Be who you are. I KNOW you can do this!”  That night I did just that!

It only takes a few words to push you forward into your vision.Surround yourself with people that honestly  want you to succeed. It may only take one voice!

“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment  that  something else is more important than fear.”~Ambrose  Redmoon

Congratulations! Today is your day. You’re off to Great Places! You’re off and away!
You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go.

Evaluate Your Time

It is amazing how we work so hard, busy..busy..busy! And yet we get nowhere. At least not financially. Sometimes it seems I am a hamster on a wheel, going round and round. Never stopping to get a drink..just round and round.

Now and then I stop to see what I am actually accomplishing. Am I spending all of my time in volunteer work, on face book or the internet “researching”? I have the same hours in a day as you, but don’t use them in a smart manner.

What are your time wasters? Either eliminate them or cut them back to a more regulated time frame. Being  productive to a monetary end takes more planning, scheduling and ACTION than we allow. Action time should be during your peak brain time…when you are at your best. Is that morning, mid day, evening. Then, when you are not at your best, check the email and do your social media. Save the BEST for PRODUCTION.

Step back..Evaluate..Make any necessary changes..Move Forward